When I look at Titus and the place and church he’s been sent to in order to “straighten out what was left unfinished and appoint elders in every town,” my heart goes out to him. Paul has not given him an easy task. Titus is on Crete, a place most people looked down on; a people with terrible reputations whom no-one respects, not even their own prophets. Listen to how Paul describes the situation in chapter 1:10–14, “For there are many rebellious people, full of meaningless talk and deception, especially those of the circumcision group. They must be silenced, because they are disrupting whole households by teaching things they ought not to teach—and that for the sake of dishonest gain. One of Crete’s own prophets has said it: “Cretans are always liars, evil brutes, lazy gluttons.” This saying is true. Therefore rebuke them sharply, so that they will be sound in the faith and will pay no attention to Jewish myths or to the merely human commands of those who reject the truth.”
It
seems the church on Crete is filled with quite a group of characters who may
have accepted the good news of Jesus, but haven’t yet begun to allow the gospel
to shape their lives in any way. Their lives are making a mockery of the
gospel, and yet, while this is a tough crowd, they also have great potential to
reveal the power of Jesus to transform lives and communities. This is why Paul
tells Titus to focus on teaching the gospel; to give the people healthy
instruction for living life as Jesus followers. The goal is to help them, and
us today, “to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly
passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present
age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the appearing of the glory of our great
God and Saviour, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all
wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to
do what is good.” Faith is not just about believing the right things,
it’s about the transformation of our heart and lives in response to Jesus.
Paul
identifies different groups of people in the church and how the gospel
should shape them. Paul tells Titus to teach the older men what a gospel good
news centered life looks like for them, “be temperate,
worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, love and in endurance.”
Older men are to show self-discipline and dignity, be in control of themselves,
quick to listen and slow to speak, showing wisdom. Paul wants the older men to
be sound, or healthy in their faith, a faith shaped by the command of Jesus to
love God with everything they have and are and to love others as themselves.
Older men also need to show how they stay grounded in the faith and with an
attitude of love through good and hard times. People look up to the older men
as examples on how to live; they are models and mentors, whether they accept
that or not, and people look to how they live more than at what they say. Our
values and beliefs are revealed more through how we walk through life than in
the words we say. ‘Do as I say, not as I do’ is not an acceptable way
for older men to act, their role in the community is too big for that kind of a
life, according to Paul.
Paul
then moves to the role that older women need to hold in the church; “be reverent in the way they live, not to slander others or be
a slave to wine, but to teach what is good.” Reverent has to do with
being holy, with living in a right way according to God’s wishes. Paul
emphasizes a few things especially: don’t slander others,
be gracious in how you talk about others, speak well of people and build them
up instead of tearing others down and gossiping. They’re not to be slaves to
wine. It seems that some of the older women especially were becoming addicted to wine, this may be why they also had issues
with slander as drinking too much loosens your tongue and you often end up
saying things you later regret, you say things that you may feel, but in cruel
mean ways. Instead the older women were to use their words for good, to teach what is good and help them become better people.
The
older women are then called to urge, or
encourage the younger women, acting as mentors and models to these younger women.
These older women can show these younger women how to love their husbands and
children; love in the 1 Corinthians 13 way of patience,
kindness, humility, with trust, hope and perseverance. Being a wife and
mother isn’t always easy and it’s not even always appreciated, even though it’s
hard and extremely important work. Mothers are the ones who do the main raising
of the children. Most of us learned our main values and morals from mom, most
of us learned the stories of the Bible from mom first, we learned love and
commitment from mom first. Dads are just as important in a child’s life, but
the majority of the day to day raising of children rests with the mom. That’s
true even today where the roles of mom and dad have shifted a bit, but moms
still carry the major share of child raising.
This
means that the foundation of our society begins with mothers. I know some women
cringe when they hear the call to be subject to their
husbands. The Greek word is submit, we
need to hear this through Paul’s call in Ephesians 5 for mutual submission and
then for wives to respect their husbands. Husbands need their wives’ respect in
order to be strong healthy husbands and fathers who take their responsibilities
seriously. Paul knew what psychologists today are rediscovering; that women and
men need different things from each other: women desire love and men desire
respect. This is why older women investing their time, energy, and love into
the younger women in church is so important, they have learned that husbands
experience love through respect, and this makes them stronger husbands and
fathers.
When
people outside the church see how younger men and women have mentors and models
who really care and invest in them; building strong adults and families, they
find it difficult to blaspheme the word of God because of how the gospel creates
strong healthy communities of flourishing families. Our families are an
important witness to the power of the gospel in our lives. When we let the
gospel shape our relationships within the family, we build solid foundations
for our children, a place where they can grow safely, surrounded by an extended
family that values investing in each other and helping them to find their hope
and security and strength in Jesus.
Paul
now turns his attention to the young men, urging Titus to teach them to be
self-controlled by being an example himself in doing good, mentoring them. Part
of mentoring is that in his teaching, Titus is encouraged to show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech. Titus’
own life and teaching is also part of his witness to the working out of the
gospel news in our lives. It’s one thing to read about how God wants us to live
as a witness for him, it’s another to watch someone live out Jesus’ way in
actual real messy life.
There’s
something inspiring about watching the life of someone who is living out their
faith in beautiful generous ways; watching how they practice self-control,
Christian character, joy, love and more in all their relationships in their
families, workplaces, school, and community. It inspires others and gives us
the courage and strength to live the same way, which then increases our witness
to the gospel and Jesus. Our children, our youth and our community are watching
us, seeing if what we say we believe is being practiced. This is why Paul even
mentions how a slave can be a witness in how he or she does their master’s
bidding, all so that in every way they will make the
teaching about God our Saviour attractive. Have you ever thought that
you are a witness to your boss about Jesus? This is why Paul in another letter
reminds us to do everything as if we’re doing it for
the Lord. It gets noticed!
Following
Jesus, teaching and encouraging each other in who Jesus is calling us to be as
individuals and as a church, shapes how we live together within our families,
church and community so that our teaching about Jesus is attractive,
drawing people to Jesus. Through God’s grace, we say “no”
to ungodliness as we wait for Jesus’ return and do the good God has
prepared for us to do to create healthy communities that reflect Jesus’
teaching and life, a place where everyone is able to flourish in the gifts God
has given us.