What’s
in a name? Our names are important; they reveal to the world who we are.
Names are not neutral; they carry our reputation. When I left home, my dad took
me aside and told me to protect our name by not doing anything stupid to hurt
it. He told me that he handed down a name filled with respect and honour, the
most precious thing he could give us. This has made me always conscious on how
my actions and attitudes affect how people see and judge, not so much myself,
but my family. God sends an angel to talk to Joseph about the baby Mary is
going to have, and the name Joseph is to give this baby boy, but Matthew also
points us back to how the prophets referred to this coming baby.
Matthew shares with us some of the details surrounding
Jesus’ birth. Mary’s engaged to Joseph, a righteous man, a good man who tries
to follow God in the ways he’s been taught. Then something goes horribly wrong.
Joseph discovers that Mary’s pregnant and it’s not his child! This is serious
enough for the village to get together and stone Mary to death if they find
out. Today we’re used to couples having babies before they get married, if they
even get married. Many of us don’t feel Joseph’s anguish and sense of betrayal.
We read this story and it’s become so familiar there’s no shock anymore. Yet Jesus
is a child of shame; his story filled with embarrassment and tears. Jesus is
born into a family with real issues, with real hurts, confusion and still his
parents have a trust in God that will shape Jesus’ life. But his mother’s
reputation will also follow him around during his life, making him more
sensitive to those who find themselves with similar reputations.
Joseph’s a righteous man and a kind man. While Joseph isn’t
Jesus’ biological father, he has an influence on shaping the kind of man Jesus
later becomes. Because of Joseph’s kind heart, he decides not to expose Mary to
the judgment and punishment of the community, instead he plans to quietly
divorce her. Now it’s time for God to get involved, so he sends an angel to
encourage Joseph to take Mary as his wife because the baby is going to need a
father with skin and bones. The angel tells Joseph that the baby’s from God and
that Mary’s innocent of what Joseph is thinking. Joseph has a tough decision to
make, does he trust this vision as coming from God, or does he do the smart
thing and divorce Mary. Joseph decides to accept the burden of Mary’s shame and
the responsibility of being Jesus’ father. Joseph is a good model of what it
means to obey God and do God’s will instead of his own, even if it’s hard.
Jesus learns from Joseph that it’s not easy to carry someone else’s burden when
you’re innocent, as Joseph carries Mary’s reputation on his shoulders. Jesus
later takes on our shame when he goes to the cross.
Jesus is shaped by who his parents are. His parents make
sure that all the religious ceremonies are followed, so Jesus is circumcised,
dedicated in the temple; a sacrifice is made for him as the oldest son, and
Jesus goes through a Bar Mitzvah just like any other Jewish boy would. Mary tells
Jesus the story of his birth and the stories of Israel and God. Jesus learns
trust in God from Mary, even when you don’t understand what God’s doing. He
learns a trade from Joseph and works at it the first few years of his adult
life. He probably got yelled at by his bosses when they had a bad day and Jesus
needed to learn how to get along with his co-workers and work with them. This
is all part of making sure your name is respected and honoured, part of growing
up. From Joseph, Jesus learned what righteousness looked like lived out in
relationships and real life, he learned kindness and compassion, he learned
what it looks like to protect the vulnerable and scorned. The role of Joseph in
Jesus’ life as his father helps Jesus learn faith-living.
The angel tells Joseph to name Mary’s baby
boy Jesus. The
Hebrew name where Jesus comes from is Joshua and means “The Lord saves.”
As the angel tells Joseph, this is because “he will
save his people from their sins.” But Matthew, who’s writing to a Jewish
audience, now takes them back to the Old Testament prophecies about the coming
Messiah. Matthew reminds his readers, “All this took
place to fulfill what the Lord has said through the prophet, “The virgin will
conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means
“God with us”).” The prophet Matthew’s referring to here is Isaiah. In
Isaiah 7, the kingdom of Judah is under attack by the northern kingdom of
Israel and the allied kingdom of Aram. Isaiah and his eldest son go to the king
of Judah and tell him to request a sign from God of his choosing that will show
him that things would work out for Judah, but King Ahaz refuses to choose a
sign, so God tells him that a specific young woman, a virgin, will conceive and
give birth to a child.
Before
the child is old enough to know right from wrong, the cities of
the kings that threatened Judah will be in ruins. The woman will call her child
Immanuel, which means in Hebrew, “God is with us.”
The name is a sign of hope, that even though war and the threat of war is all
around them, God will save Judah. As one commentator writes, “The message
that “God is with us” would be true when the
kingdoms of Aram and Samaria were laid waste and Judah was saved. The message
that “God is with us” would be no less true when
the Assyrians laid siege to Judah and her citizens were killed and enslaved.
God is with us not just in times of deliverance, but in times of devastation.”
Matthew
is writing after the fall of the temple in 70 AD. God’s home on
earth has been destroyed. The city of God’s presence in the Promised Land has
been destroyed by Roman legions. Thousands of Matthew’s readers’ friends and
relatives have been brutally killed, hundreds of them by crucifixion on
crosses. The world and the future doesn’t look good for the Jews, or the small
but growing church. This is the context in which Matthew is telling the story
to the people of the angel’s visit to Joseph. Matthew reminds his readers of a
prophecy about a child born hundreds of years earlier whose birth pointed to
both deliverance and destruction. Matthew argues that Jesus’ birth fulfills Isaiah’s
prophecy even more than in its original context. The temple has been destroyed,
but Jesus’ birth, life, death, and resurrection are a shout to the world that God is with us!
Matthew
translates Immanuel as simply God with us, pointing us straight
to Jesus as God’s son, as God himself. This is more than just a promise of
God’s presence. It shows God’s deep desire for closeness with us. God’s not far
away, up in heaven watching us from a distance; he’s here with us. God becomes
one of us in order to live and experience our world in the same with we do,
with flesh on his bones, with a heart that beats blood, a stomach that growls
when it’s hungry; a man who cries real tears, whether of sorrow or laughter.
The theological word for this is “incarnation,” meaning that God
takes on human flesh. As one unnamed writer puts it, “This means that
everything that makes up the physical world – from our planet to our bodies –
is important to God. Spirit and matter are not separate, but are one, and God
is to be found within our embodied lives. We can rest in the knowledge that God
truly is with us, not just in a once off moment in history, but in every moment
and every situation.”
Even
how Jesus comes, being born just like we are, is important
because Jesus depends on his parents for the basics of life, he learns from
Mary and Joseph the stories of God and Israel and how to follow God, he grows
up in a family with brothers and sisters and learns how to get along with pesky
younger siblings, he grows up in a small village with people who share the struggles
and joys of life together, who help each other out when times are tough, and
who love and fight. Jesus learns what it means to be human. I’ve often wondered
if the image of church as a family comes from Jesus’ growing up in a family and
seeing its cracks and beauty, its strengths and weaknesses, but especially how
it’s a safe and nurturing place to learn about God and the importance of relationships.
We
see this come out in Jesus’ teaching and life as he teaches what it means to
follow God in the day-to-day events of life; focusing on growing a Godly
character and living well with God and each other. We see his compassion in his
interactions with others, leading with grace and forgiveness while at the same
time challenging the people to make sure God is first in their life. This
Christmas, take time to give thanks for God as our Father, Jesus as our older
brother, the Holy Spirit as our encourager, the church as our faith family, and
our personal families as gifts given to us from our loving Father.