This is the part of the crucifixion of Jesus that always hits me the hardest, the part where the meaning of Good Friday and Christmas come together for me. Jesus is praying for us after having been betrayed, beaten, unjustly condemned to a most cruel death by a cowardly governor and vengeful religious leaders, and nailed to a cross. Now Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.” Let that sink in for a moment.
My first question usually is, who is the “they” Jesus is praying for here? Is it the Jewish leaders who’ve been planning his death for a while now, is it Pilate who unjustly condemned Jesus even after he found Jesus innocent, is it the soldiers who beat and mocked him, or the crowd who allows themselves to be manipulated and riled up into an unthinking and vicious mass, or is it the men on the crosses beside him? There are so many who need forgiveness and it’s easy to focus on them, but Lent is a time to be honest with ourselves and confess that it’s all of them and us too. We’re all sinners; it’s our sin that placed Jesus on the cross. We can identify with many, if not all of those who were there 2,000 years ago in Jerusalem and around the cross.
Jesus is praying here for each one of us. We all need forgiveness. Jesus could have prayed for our punishment, instead he prays for our forgiveness. In the middle of his physical and spiritual suffering, suffering we simply can’t understand, Jesus stays true to who he is as God, full of mercy and grace, choosing for his people instead of against them. Out of Jesus’ great love for us he chooses to forgive and takes the filthy sin of the world on himself so we can be washed clean, made holy for his Father.
Our forgiveness comes at a huge cost for Jesus, his grace to us isn’t cheap, as Dietrick Bonhoeffer reminds us. Forgiveness is one of the big themes in Scripture. Forgiveness is rooted in grace and mercy, pointing to the Old Testament sacrifices and rituals; it’s God choosing to not give up on his people. The Jews understood forgiveness as atonement leading to reconciliation between God and his people; as God lifting our sin from us and carrying it away.
Forgiveness is best understood through the images God gives us to show us how complete his forgiveness for us is. Psalm 103:12, “as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us,” and in Jeremiah 31:34, “No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, ‘Know the Lord,’ because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest,” declares the Lord. “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.” Then there’s Micah 7:19, “You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea.” When God forgives, our sin is dealt with completely, he doesn’t see them anymore!
In the New Testament, forgiveness is rooted in God’s dealing graciously with his people, and the image of sending our sin away, releasing us from our sin. Forgiveness in the New Testament always points us to Jesus and how he forgives, relating to us with deep grace, freeing us from the chains of sin. The call to repentance also becomes more prominent, Jesus’ message is “Repent and believe, for the kingdom of heaven in near.” Repentance is confessing that we’re sinners; confessing our sin with a desire to change with the help of the Holy Spirit because we cannot change on our own. Right after Jesus’ resurrection, he appears to his disciples saying, “and repentance for the forgiveness of sins will be preached in his name to all nations, beginning at Jerusalem.” Repentance is rooted in faith, which is a gift from God so that we don’t connect our actions with earning God’s forgiveness. Our forgiveness is all about Jesus, all grace.
On the cross, Jesus prays for forgiveness because “they do not know what they are doing.” This is fascinating because Jesus knows how clueless we can be when it comes to our own hearts and sin. It’s a sobering picture of ourselves and should make us think much more deeply about what we really believe and how it shapes who we are and how we live. God knows our hearts, but do we? Do we recognize our sin and how it shapes how we interpret the world around us? How often don’t we shape our lives around what we want over what the Holy Spirit wants? Does love of God, neighbour, enemy, and persecutor truly shape our hearts and actions? Do we believe God adapts to our wants or do we truly shape ourselves on Scripture and what Jesus desires?
In a day and age where most people have multiple Bibles in their houses, multiple preachers to listen to online and in-person, why are we more biblically illiterate than people even just 50 years ago? Are we the people Paul warns about in 2 Timothy 4:3, “For the time will come when people will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear.” This is part of the reason the historical church developed the seasons of Lent and Advent, to get us into the Bible, especially the Gospels, to point us back to Jesus and our need for him. Ignorance doesn’t excuse us, but Jesus has sympathy for us, praying for our forgiveness even when we don’t understand just how much forgiveness we really need. Our reassurance is that the Father hears his Son’s prayer and answers it with mercy and grace! Pastor Norman Steen writes that, “When we pray for forgiveness our prayer is sure to be heard and answered, for we are praying along with Jesus; our prayer is wrapped up in his prayer. Our desire for forgiveness matches his desire that we be forgiven.”
We’ve focused just now on our sin and need for repentance. That’s because when we realize just how much we need forgiveness, when we realize how much Jesus did for us on the cross, we start to understand why Jesus taught us the importance of forgiving others. Jesus teaches us to pray in Luke, “Forgive us our sins. For we also forgive everyone who sins against us.” When we understand what it cost Jesus to wash away our sins, it takes us to a place of thankfulness, a place where our hearts are softened for others as Jesus’ has a soft heart, a heart of flesh for us. When we forgive others, it reveals that our repentance is real. Jesus not only teaches us to forgive, he shows us how to forgive, what forgiveness looks like. Our forgiveness of others flows out of Jesus’ forgiveness for us. Paul tells us in Colossians 3:13, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Forgiveness is hard and a process. It begins by deciding to forgive. For 20 years, a man began every day with speaking into a mirror, “I forgive….,” and then he listed the names of soldiers who had abused him and other prisoners in a concentration camp during WW 2. He said it took 20 years for the forgiveness to move from his mouth to his heart. He chose to forgive because Jesus told him the importance of forgiveness, he knew that a lack of forgiveness would poison his heart otherwise. It took the Holy Spirit softening his heart through the years, showing him how much Jesus loves him and that the only way he would be able to forgive is to let Jesus’ love, shown in Jesus forgiving his sin, shape his heart and allow him to accept Jesus’ forgiveness and allow that forgiveness flow through him. Ephesians 4:32, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you,” helped him understand this. One word of warning, forgiveness does not mean placing yourself in danger or staying in an abusive relationship; forgiveness and justice work together, they are not opposites, sin has consequences.
Forgiveness comes at a cost for all those who choose to forgive. Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. Forgiveness is a promise to not keep bringing the matter up with the one who has sinned against you, leaving it fully in the past. It means refusing to dwell on the offense, focusing on the forgiveness. Forgiveness means praying for the well-being of the other person, praying for the presence and blessing of the Holy Spirit in their lives, praying that the Holy Spirit will transform their, and your hearts, to be more Christ-like.
Forgiveness through grace is at the heart of our faith. If there’s anyone you need to forgive, begin by embracing Jesus’ forgiveness of your sin, and then pray for his help in forgiving. It may just start with words, but the Holy Spirit will work in you to move forgiveness from words to your heart, allowing you to begin to find healing and hope.